Honesty and integrity are defined as qualities that allow an individual to do the right thing as often and as much as possible, and when they have done the wrong thing they admit to what they have done. Honesty is the sticking to the facts and truthfulness. To perform honestly would be: to tell the truth, to be able to be trustworthy, to not cheat and to be true to yourself. Honesty is doing the right thing, integrity; following through and being able to be counted on, trustworthy; you will not take credit, money or rewards for things you didn’t perform or do, fairness/ honor; meaning what you say what you mean, and finally you will act and explain yourself as you truly are, genuine.
When a person is dishonest they will act in a dishonest manner. Honesty and integrity are extremely important aspects or character traits that will earn respect and honor, if used. Disregarding them would be a mistake, making it very hard to get by throughout life. And if a habit of doing the right thing is made, lying would absolutely not be necessary in my life. Honesty and integrity also have a meaning for me. I will do my best not to do the wrong thing but I have chosen to do the right thing for me to be honest, I will tell the truth to my parents, teachers, friends and anyone I speak to or come in contact with. Telling the truth, no matter what the consequences are, in the long run it is for the better. I have owned up to my mistakes, such as walking off with a cell phone, rather than being honest and asking for it.
Integrity is how somebody lives their life. In this life we live, we face choices every day that only we can answer. We decide how we run our own lives, and the way we run them defines us. It’s doing the right thing versus the wrong thing. People, if nothing else, can always have their pride, their integrity. It is something that means a lot to some people and then nothing to others. The ones who value their integrity highly are the good people in this world, and the opposite is true for those who do not value their integrity. Honesty and integrity create the foundation of trust. When a person loses his or her trustworthiness, it is impossible to have healthy personal or our relationships. When we lose our credibility, we lose a critical portion of ourselves. Trustworthiness and credibility are based upon honesty and integrity and these are the key values in our lives.
As you can see from the definitions above, honesty involves being truthful in word and behavior. Integrity means having your insides match your outsides. This means that your behavior reflects those values that you say you believe in. The more honesty and integrity you have the less anxiety and stress you will suffer. When your behavior doesn’t reflect your feelings, you will experience lower self-esteem. You won’t feel very good about yourself. So, in addition to affecting yourself you also affect your relationships with family and friends. When viewed this way, integrity is the value we place on ourselves. Do we value ourselves and our peace of mind enough to be honest in word and behavior? When thinking about our honesty and integrity.
They are my greatest asset. I feel that as a person I need to treat everyone with dignity and respect. It is up to me to see that this really happens. It is up to me to provide the integrity. I was told by my Parents that one of the most important ways to show integrity and honesty is to be truthful to those who are not around. When you are able to do this, you build the trust of those who are around you. Suppose you were talking with a friend and were bad mouthing another person in a way that you wouldn’t dare do if that they were around. Even though your friend may be in the conversation, what do you think he/she is thinking about you and about you?
They are probably thinking that if you ever have a falling out with them, you will be talking behind their backs with someone else. That person now knows your nature: you’ll be nice to people to their face but be rude of them behind their back. How do they know this? Because they have seen you do it! Your integrity is lost. Or suppose you are talking with another person and you tell him/her something someone else had shared with you in confidence. In an effort to build a relationship with that person, you tell their secret. Betraying another person does not build trust with another person. It would be showing your lack of integrity and therefore destroy the illusion of trust you were trying to build.
Honesty and integrity sometimes require being confrontational. Sometimes it means standing alone in your beliefs and behavior. Confrontation takes courage. Many people would prefer to take the path of least resistance. They would rather submit to gossip, betraying confidences and dishonesty than to stand up for what they say they believe in. But in the long run, you will be more trusted, respected and even loved if you are honest and kind to others. Work to be an “authentic” person. Work to live a truthful, integrated existence. Carefully evaluate your values and live by them.